Friday, August 25, 2006

Ending Racism through Closeness

My intention when writing the above phrase was not closeness through sex although that is one of the only ways men are "allowed" to be close to women in our society. Closeness with other men is only allowed through sports, beer-drinnking, fighting, or else (not so allowed) sex with other men.

But here is an article about the relationship between sex and war. Rather I should say, as I see it, an article which shows that lack of touch and closeness for infants results directly in a tendency towards violence in later life. I should keep blogging and using this as a reference in my hypothesis that we will end racism through closeness.

Found via the dilettante, aka Jonathon Korman in Make Love Not War

A neuropsychologist contends that the greatest threat to world peace comes from those nations which have the most depriving environments for their children and which are most repressive of sexual affection and female sexuality.

...Imprisoning people, our usual way of dealing with crime, will not solve the problem, because the causes of violence lie in our basic values and the way in which we bring up our children and youth. Physical punishment, violent films and TV programs teach our children that physical violence is normal. But these early life experiences are not the only or even the main source of violent behavior. Recent research supports the point of view that the deprivation of physical pleasure is a major ingredient in the expression of physical violence. ... [my emphasis]

If we shut down closeness we end up with violence. If we demonize sexuality we take away one of the few "acceptable" avenues of closeness for men, imo.

But what if you've already NOT had closeness as a child? That's where I feel one can heal. We are not too broken to heal. That's what Listening For Change is all about.


Anonymous Will said...

Your blog provides a useful perspective. I agree if a young one is provided the essentials of humaness i.e. closeness, safety, warmth, affection; exposure to violent images and such is more likely to be thrown off by the young one as some sort of peculiar aberrancy.

I am inclned to take issue wth the emphasis about promoting sexuality because it is the lone acceptable avenue for men to experience closeness. We need to promote unabashed closeness with little boys. I think desperation around sexual contact is at the core of sexism, and the exploitation of woman.


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